Personality - How to increase self-worth and develop confidence (Part-I)
WHY ?
Self-esteem is made up of the thoughts we have about ourselves and plays a role in almost everything we do. Low self-esteem and self-worth lowers your confidence and prevents you from reaching your full potential. It affects every single aspect of your life.
HOW?
Accept yourself
Self-acceptance is the most important stepping stone to confidence.
Accept compliments
When people give you compliments, say ‘thanks’ rather than brushing them aside or countering them with a negative. Even if you feel, they are undeserved. There is a reason you are getting compliments.
Nobody is perfect
Always strive to be the best version of yourself, but it’s also important to accept that perfection is an unrealistic goal.
Accept your ‘flaws’ or imperfections and learn to love them, they are what make you unique.
Let vulnerability liberate you and not embarrass you
Don’t be afraid to share your vulnerabilities that “you have gotten over”. Why does a human, an imperfect creature who lives on Earth, an imperfect world has to hide their imperfections for fear of embarrassment and belittlement because supposedly others are angels and live in heaven? Nobody is perfect. You may have noticed that I openly share my vulnerabilities. They liberate me since I have come to love myself despite them.
Fail to grow
You’ve got to fail in order to learn and grow. Everyone’s been there. Please don’t beat yourself up for failures or mistakes.
Applaud yourself
That little voice that tells you you're killing it (or not) is way more powerful than you might think. Make an effort to be kind to yourself and, if you do slip up, try to challenge any negative thoughts. Speak to yourself in the same way that you’d speak to others, your patients or your friends. Please don’t be harsh to yourself.
Challenge negative thoughts about yourself
Write down a list of at least three things you do well. Memorize them!
Remember this list when you start feeling low. Any negative thoughts you have about yourself, replace them with these positive thoughts about yourself. Never ever COMPARE. Comparing yourself to other people is a sure-fire way to start feeling crummy. Try to focus on your own goals and achievements, rather than measuring them against someone else’s. Nobody needs that kind of pressure! Comparison is the thief of joy.
Self Care (Details on self-care coming later. Remember, we are slowing down a little to implement)